PUT THE LIFELINE DOWN
There is a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from loving someone who is constantly fighting themselves. You see them hurting. You see the choices they make and the patterns they keep returning to, even after those same patterns have broken them before. And because you care about them, you start thinking about how you can help. You explain, you advise, you encourage, you become patient, you forgive, and you try again. But somewhere along the way, you can start carrying a problem that was never yours to carry in the first place. You begin believing that if you just say the right thing, love them a little harder , give them enough time, or show them enough patience, something will finally click. They'll finally see what you see. They'll finally choose themselves. They'll finally want better. But what happens when they don't? The truth is, you cannot save someone who doesn't want to save themselves. You cannot want someone's healing more than they want it fo...